You are the architect of your life. Don’t let others design it for you. Remember that you have a choice about most 'shoulds'.
The truth is, achieving the best outcomes — job satisfaction, meaningful relationships, successful ventures — requires shedding our shoulds. We can do this by asking three potentially life-changing questions before pursuing a path or taking on a new commitment.
https://hbr.org/2017/05/before-you-agree-to-take-on-new-work-ask-3-questions